“Strictly speaking, no matter what situation you are in, happy or sad, you live alone, and your practice is to walk steadily and alone. Most people read this teaching in a pessimistic way, but it is not a pessimistic or negative way of life at all. If we understand it properly, it is actually very positive.
The Buddha also taught that if you come across a true friend — one who is noble, fearless, thoughtful, and wise — then walk with that friend in peace. If you find such a friend, you can walk together for life. But don’t be too eager to find such a friend. If you become greedy for such a friend, you will be disappointed, and you will not be able to live in peace and harmony with others.
Learning to live alone means that, whatever the situation, you have to live quietly. All you have to do is just walk, step-by-step. It’s not so easy, but it’s very important for us. And if we are not too greedy, the good friend will appear.”
Dainin Katagiri, Zen master (1928-1990)